Care can be a power move. So can helping. So can being the one who knows what to say and when. This workshop is a place to look at that.
We will explore over-functioning, containment, and consent-centered practice through somatics and structural analysis. You will learn what over-functioning looks like at home and at scale, the difference between a boundary and a demand, and how to translate a criticism into an impact statement. We will practice together so the learning lands in your body, not just your mind.
This is not a workshop for fixing the people in your life. It is a place to look at your own moves. We arrive, name, feel, step back together.
Care can be a power move. So can helping. So can being the one who knows what to say and when. This workshop is a place to look at that.
We will explore over-functioning, containment, and consent-centered practice through somatics and structural analysis. You will learn what over-functioning looks like at home and at scale, the difference between a boundary and a demand, and how to translate a criticism into an impact statement. We will practice together so the learning lands in your body, not just your mind.
This is not a workshop for fixing the people in your life. It is a place to look at your own moves. We arrive, name, feel, step back together.
On May 18th, 2026, I'm hosting a two-hour online workshop called Tender Violence: The Control Beneath Care.
Patriarchy and white supremacy operate through dominance. Abject violence is one mechanism. Containment is another. This workshop is about subtle coercion in our most intimate relationships. We won’t look at what has been done to us: we’ll look at what we are doing.
Through somatics, structural analysis, and consent-centered practice, you'll leave with a clearer sense of what reciprocity actually requires.
Accountability expands agency. Shame collapses it. Together, we'll learn to step back, witness, and be witnessed.
50% of proceeds from this workshop will go to the Drinking Gourd.
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Arrive and settle our digital space
Name what over-functioning is and explore examples
Look at how containment concentrates power
See how the same moves operate at scale
Distinguish boundaries from requests and demands
Practice translating criticism into impact statement
Share observations and ask questions at the end
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A way to hold the complexity of relational labor
A practice in clearer naming
An invitation to stay in contact through conflict
A blend of structural analysis and embodied practice
A place to look at how you might perpetuate patterns
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A way to handle abusive relationships
A license to weaponize this information
A diagnostic tool to use on your partner
Permission to abandon care
A place where you have to perform being healed
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People who recognize themselves as the planner, the smoother, the one who tracks the room
People who have been told they are "the strong one" and are starting to notice the cost
People who keep landing in the same fight in their most intimate relationships
People who have done some work and want to look at the moves they're still making
Therapists, organizers, caregivers, parents, friends, anyone who has built a life around being depended on
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Date: May 18th, 2026
Time: 6pm to 8pm PST
Place: Zoom
Price: $50, half of proceeds to the Drinking Gourd
Replay: Yes, sent afterward
Care can be a power move. So can helping. So can being the one who knows what to say and when. This workshop is a place to look at that.
We will explore over-functioning, containment, and consent-centered practice through somatics and structural analysis. You will learn what over-functioning looks like at home and at scale, the difference between a boundary and a demand, and how to translate a criticism into an impact statement. We will practice together so the learning lands in your body, not just your mind.
This is not a workshop for fixing the people in your life. It is a place to look at your own moves. We arrive, name, feel, step back together.